137 days

I know I know I skipped a few days! Have had a lot going on, job opportunity that didn't quite pan out, a friends bridal shower and bachelorette party and now its only 2 sleeps until my birthday! Thank goodness I have been busy this week, sometimes without a job to report to every morning, the wedding planning seems to be my only source of routine. Honestly, nothing is routine about planning a wedding! Still waiting on my florist to get back to me, she is the bane of my existence this week, but will keep chugging along hoping she gets her head on straight and meets with me to finalize the plans.
My fairy godmother is driving up from North Carolina to help me get the bulk of things done next week, so I will have lots more to report! Till then, happy not so busy bride will be fluttering around hoping to get some checks on that checklist!

148 days

Its all in the details...

dresses...check!
venue...check!
band with DJ...check check!
Honeymoon..CHECK!!!
Florist...big pain in my butt, she gets a half check
Mens formal wear...not near a check!
wedding officiant..workin on it!

Now those are the BIG to do's...finishing them and working out all the small things..now that is where the challenge begin!

I found a wonderful invitation designer, probably half the price of those most have seen in this market, so time is on her side and I should have something VERY soon!
Have to figure out the guest book..hmmm scrapbook idea....
Favors are a done deal, just have to widdle down the invite list to figure out how may I need to buy, that will be done weeks down the road.
My biggest hurdle on this to do list...ensuring our 225 guest are entertained while I am soaring in the clouds...now that will be my true challenge!

Going to spend some time with my maid of honor this weekend, tanning, relaxing in the jacuzzi and SHOPPING! There has to be some down time for a woman who spends her days working on wedding stuff and cramming in job interviews when I am so lucky to be called for one.

We have a lot of work ahead of us in these coming months but I know we will get it done. Goal for day 148..find jewelry for my bridesmaids! Wish us luck!

149 days...

There is so much to share about the big day, but I should start with a few of the things that are most important..

We are getting married at a farm in Andover NJ. Its absolutely beautiful there. Since Jason's family is jewish and mine catholic, we have decided on doing a non denominational/non religious ceremony. I have to be honest, I always dreamed of having a big church wedding. With all the grandeur of a large cathedral and limos out front waiting to whisk me away. In the past few years I have kind of lost my way when it comes to church and its role in my life. I am sure a lot of it has to do with loosing my mother too soon, but I believe you make your own happiness and don't need the priests or other parishners telling you how to believe in god. As long as you do, you can do that anywhere and in your own way. Our venue is gorgeous, it has been around for almost 100 years, we will be married under a fall sunset, outside, with all of our family and friends by our side. I may not have a pulpit or a priest in front of me, but I know that my angel will be on my shoulder and thats all I need on this day. That and my soon to be husband of course!

Now I won't be showing you my dress, that my friends you will have to wait another 149 days to see. 

However, I will give you a sneak peak into all the other details we have woven into the big day. That should hold you off for a while:) 

I have chosen some of the most lovely, strong and beautiful women I know to stand next to me on this day. They are the best friends a girl could have, I know that term is used widely and probably half the time without said friend earning such a title. My friends and family, however, have earned titles greater than "best". They have shown me what it is to live. To live like today is our last day and why not making it the best it can be. We have traveled the world together some of us, we have sat and cried over whatever ails us at that time. We have road horses under a sunrise, cried at our parents funerals, rushed to the hospital for the birth of the next generation, mended each other when mending was needed.  

There comes a time in your life where you are forced to take stock in the people around you. Some friends have gone on to live their lives without you, some you were glad to see go, but the true ones, the ones who make sure your OK before they go home at night, those are the friends you want in the pictures 50 years from now when you are celebrating your anniversary. 

So, this is what my lovely friends and family will be wearing on our wedding day. What a gorgeous dress for the most beautiful women I know. 

When my mother brought her home 30 years ago, I told my parents she was my little dolly and would take care of her forever. Sisters are funny creatures. We can change each others mood and outlook with a simple smile. Read each others minds with a slant of the eye. We are sisters and we are strong together. Its a bond that has been in the works for many many years now and no matter what the circumstances we will always have each other to lean on. She and I have our differences, don't get me wrong, but when walking through the fires of hell, there are two peoples hands I would hold..my soon to be husband and my sister. Now that, my dears, is what you look for in a maid of honor. This is the lovely dress we chose for my wonderful sister to wear while standing by my side. 

150 days until I am a Mrs!

Today begins the countdown! As if I needed another activity added to my never ending to do list, I figured why not, something to reflect on down the road. And here begins my blog...


A little back story to start this off right. I am marrying my best friend in 150 days! We began dating a little over 3 years ago and soon will be husband and wife. I have been blessed with many things in life and Jason is on the top of my blessings list. He has stood by me through the hardest days I have had to face and always does it with class and a certain sense of ease about him. He is not only my best friend, but my foundation... and what better way to start a marriage than with a solid foundation. 


Life hasn't always been so easy for us, for me I have had many trials and tribulations throughout this relationship and somehow have come out of it a stronger, better person. 


In July of 2008, I lost my true foundation, my mother. She passed suddenly and without warning and left my family with a huge hole to fill....we will never be quite "whole" again. You see, she was our backbone, our cheer leader, our strength and when that is taken away from you, some are lucky to have someone to hold you up, some unfortunately are not so lucky. I am one of the lucky ones. 


Through the past few years it has been tough to manage the day to day grind, even more so now that we are planning the happiest day of our life without her by my side.  I have learned a lot with out her here and have tried to stayed true to her dream of my wedding, I can hear her voice in every small detail...I will plan my wedding to my best friend, with pride, with heart and most of all with love... because that is what my mother taught me.


 A mother may be lost in sight and touch but her heart always stays within her children. So, this is the story of one of Patricia's children.... planning the happiest day of her life...